Friday, December 24, 2004

A wedding and a funeral

my cousin passed away this mourning. he left this world, his wife and five children. the eldest is only fifteen and the newborn is only six months old.

i visited him at changi hospital's icu last night. he was still unconcious yet when you touch his hand, his head twitch a little. it makes you feel so sad to see this small man lying helplessly on the bed with tubes poking here and there and his last few hours of life was being run by machines. there's nothing you can do but look and shed tears. it makes it even more sad that the doctor said there is no hope and we should make the choice whether or not to pull the plug. oh only god knows the pain a wife or a mother would feel.

this morning, the doctor told the wife to call all the relatives to come down to see him. for the last time. his wife held his hand tight and talked to him even though he was still lying there unconcious. his two older sons held him and whispered in his ears. his mother crying uncontrollably holding him. his relatives reading verses from the quran and crying. then his heart stopped beating and the machines were turned off.


my other cousin is getting married this sunday. the wedding will seem rather sad. everybody will be tired going from one place to another. preparing for the wedding and visiting my widow aunt's place for kenduris.

we come and go but we dont know when. life is ever so precious and can be taken away from you anytime. today happened so fast. my cousin is now gone. his wife will cry till she sleeps these few nights. his two older children too. his two little girls will only have scraps of memories of their father. his newborn dont even get the chance to know her father.

so much tears shed today for a young life lost.
ladollyvita at 6:50 PM